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Husbands Take Note! Here Are 5 Ways You Can Help Your Wife After Childbirth
By Hana Maher
The feeling of being a new father is euphoric! But gents, your wife did not only carry your newborn for 9 months while coping with the hormonal, emotional and physical changes, she endured labour FOR HOURS and now, she’s going through postpartum confinement while adjusting to her new role as a mother. Fortunately, she doesn’t have to go through it alone! So husbands, pay attention and take note as we share with you 5 ways you can lend your wife a helping hand after childbirth:
1. Learn Of Your Wife’s Episiotomy, Perineal Tear or LSCS
Whether you and your wife opted for natural birth or c-section, there’s no escaping “labour wounds.” Aside from reading about episiotomy, perineal tear or lower segment caesarean section (LCSC), husbands can also learn how to care and clean after the wound. And while you’re at it, you should also read the signs and symptoms of infection that could potentially be life-threatening. A little disclaimer: the topic and images can be “gruesome,” but for your wife’s health and well-being, it’s worth it!
2. Get Involved During Feeding Time, Even If Your Newborn Is Still Breastfeeding
It may look easy, but, ask any experienced breastfeeding moms and they will tell you that breastfeeding is a challenge on its own! For a start, try educating yourself by watching breastfeeding and latch how-to videos, so that your wife knows she doesn’t have to go through it alone and she has a partner to discuss with. Once your wife’s milk supply is fully established and baby’s latch is solid, you can bottle feed your baby. This will be so helpful for your wife as it’ll give her a little more room to pump (or to just move around) while the husbands feed their little bundle of joy.
3. Make Sure She Gets Enough Food And Stays Hydrated
Speaking of “feeding,” your wife will be ravenous and dehydrated, especially if she’s breastfeeding. So, husbands can give a hand by preparing and cooking her nutritious meals and keeping a tall water bottle close by. And because she’s in postpartum confinement, it’s crazy important for husbands to know what your wife can and cannot consume. Oh, “hangry” is very much real during postpartum confinement. You have been warned.
4. Attend To Her Needs, Especially When She’s Nursing The Baby
Women are complex human beings who often assume their husbands are mind readers. To avoid any misunderstanding, husbands can be extra doting by asking their wives if they need or want anything while they nurse the baby. And it’s not just about attending their needs, husbands can also lighten the wife’s load by settling some house chores such as doing the laundry or cleaning up after them. Believe us when we tell you, this will certainly ease your wife’s mind and allow her to focus more on nursing and nourishing the baby. In addition, you might also score some brownie points for allowing her to rest more.
5. Look Out For Signs Of Postpartum Depression
This is something that every husband should be wary of because postpartum depression is very real and often go unrecognised and untreated. Husbands, you of all people should know your wife best. Aside from reading up on the signs, symptoms and effects of postpartum depression on your wife AND child, you should also communicate with your wife and actually listen to whatever she is saying. Sometimes your wife might not be in the mood to talk, but try engaging with her slowly and encourage her to talk through her worries and anxieties with you. And if something is amiss, call the doctor ASAP.
Let’s be real; there are more than 5 ways to help your wife during postpartum confinement and after childbirth. So, for an additional read, check out this link here or the simplest way is to just ask your wife, “Sayang, what can I do for you today?”
All the best, husbands!